The Pain of Love

This book reflects causes of the pains people encounter in their relationships in Botswana, Africa which lead other people to commit passion killings. It also provides solutions as well as counseling. This book reflects 5 things which keep a relationship going smoothly. 1. MONEY: If there is no money, conflict is bound to be there. And if money is there and one of the two is misusing it, conflict is also bound to be there. Or if money is there and the two have different opinions on what to use that money for, conflict also arises.2. FOOD: As majority of the people are poor in the country, if one has bought food and thinking that the food is going to sustain them for a particular period, if food finishes, the one who bought it will start to complain or get angry. And as an Africa custom, other couples are staying with extended family members and once food finishes, the one who bought it will start to accuse his\her partner for letting extended family members to stay with them. The one who is blamed will not feel comfortable with the accusations and start to hold grudge against his\ her partner. 3: SEX: If one of the two is denied that sexual encounter, the one denied will spend endless days angry and is irritated by anything. Anything his\her partner does is wrong. Because a sexually hungry person is a very angry person. Things that did not matter suddenly do. 4: ACCOMMODATION. Suppose the two are not staying under the same roof, one is staying there and the other one staying elsewhere. One of the two can be influenced by the environment one is living in and end up doing something which can end up hurting the other partner. 5. GOOD COMMUNICATION AND RESPECT: A lot of relationships collapsed due to poor communication and lack of respect. Other people lost their relationships just because they failed to apologize to their partners when they have done something wrong. While others hold grudges against their partners for the mistakes their partners have committed in the past. After failing to forgive their partners, they then decide to end their relationships while their partners still hold huge love for them. Others try to revenge and that backfires on them when their partners retaliates. This then leads to passion killings. Prior to writing this book, Kebaneilwe Garebatho encountered two unfortunate situations. The first one was when he caught his longtime fianc